Do you ever feel like you’re working your ass off, but you have no idea if you’re getting any closer to achieving your goals?
You clearly see your goal. And you know you must be taking steps forward because of how hard you’re slaving away. But you still feel far as hell from it?
Your parents and friends ask you what you’ve been doing all day, and you’re not sure how to answer them? Which is pretty wild since you feel like your brain just ran an iron man?
Your goal is this daunting mountain that’s always taunting you to…
Three men were laying brick. The first was asked, “what are you doing?” He answered: Laying some brick. The second man was asked: what are you working for? He answered: for five dollars a day. The third man was asked what are you doing? He answered: I am helping to build a great cathedral. Which man are you?
— Charles Schwab
Our motivation behind anything in life is transactional or transformational.
Some of you may have heard this concept regarding different leadership styles, especially if you’ve worked in the corporate world.
There are many facets of our life. For this…
To some degree, I feel fear on a daily basis.
Sometimes I meditate through it and it disappears as fast as it finds me.
Other times I’m able to flick it off my shoulder with fervor, like an unwanted piece of lint, and carry on with my bad self.
Sometimes I walk through it, talk through it, or laugh at the silliness of the tornado of thoughts and feelings it’s gifted me.
And then sometimes… It lingers. Growing in size day by day. Hanging over me like a gray cloud, trying desperately to get me to surrender to it.
I sat on my driveway and wedged myself behind the recycling bin. Trying to achieve an ounce of privacy for my virtual therapy session.
I was recounting the emotional rollercoaster I had been on for the last few weeks. Mainly a direct cause from a constant cycle of burnout I’ve been engaging in.
I have been living in a perpetual state of “doing” rather than “being.” My burnout is begging for me to just “be”, my worker bee brain is begging for me to continue to “do.”
My thoughts have been a messy spiral I’ve tried to ground, to no…
I am currently writing this to you from Virginia Beach, VA. A city I honestly never had a desire to visit and definitely didn’t think I’d be temporarily living in.
I’ve had to stop a few toxic thought spirals from raging out of control in my brain this year. Most of them brought on by this all-consuming disappointment that what my current day-to-day consists of is not what I thought my life would “be” like.
I wanted to point the finger of blame somewhere but always came up short on who the culprit was.
In choosing to be disappointed by…
I used to be one of those annoying people who said sorry 80 times a day. About 73 times too many.
The people-pleaser in me was always eager to hand out hoards of sorry’s. You could be dangerously texting and walking and plow face-first into me. I would profusely apologize as I helped you up and made sure you were safe, while blood poured from my knees.
To go along with my sorry’s I also handed out second chances like Halloween candy. And sometimes third and fourth chances that debatably should’ve never been given.
However, it’s my belief that everyone…
Your level of self-confidence or lack thereof creates the lens you see life through. It dictates how you show up, communicate with yourself and others, and make decisions. It has a say in how you take risks, how you socialize, go after your dreams, and seeps into the thoughts that run through your head as you drift off to sleep.
In all the media you consume, you’re flooded with images of people who exude confidence in all the media you consume.
“If only I was more confident I could do…”
“If I had confidence, I would be…”
“Wow, they’re so…
I’ve recently been exploring what I thought life was supposed to be like. My thoughts keep finding themselves in a state of wondering… what I expected my time here to be like.
What I thought it was going to feel like.
How the external world I live in and the internal energy swirling inside of me co-exist?
Do we spend more time wondering about what we thought life was supposed to be like rather than actually being in life?
Do we spend more time wadding in our past or sprinting towards our future that we forget to just be? Do…
“If only I had more confidence, I could… go after my deepest desire, take that brave action, not crave so much outward validation, etc;”
These thoughts would echo through my brain on repeat. Constantly propelling the narrative that I wasn’t confident enough.
And to be fair, my lack of confidence has at times stopped me from going after the experiences I truly desire.
I attempted to take more confident actions. I was “doing” things that I hoped would propel me into a confident state. But I didn’t allow myself to change my inner narrative.
I had expected from taking these…
As I raced to finish editing hoards of voice-over auditions, my brain played its typical Monday game.
Ah, I know I scheduled this zoom, or webinar, or online class, or meeting. But now I’m in the thick of 8 million tasks and regretting it. I curse myself for not canceling earlier and wonder when I’ll learn my lesson to stop scheduling things on Monday afternoon. When undoubtedly this happens every week.
I had signed up for an Unlikely conversation.
It was a free 1-hour online conversation moderated by a coach. I did not know how many people would be there…